Connections and Community

I am reminded, as I sit contemplating the rich experiences and connections that I found in a week-long camping trip under the ancient redwoods in Santa Cruz, that we are nothing without the family and community that we build.

There is no success without someone to share it.  There is no love without someone to return it.  And there is no future without a community of people who care deeply about sustainability, abundance and authentic communication.

Well, these things are true for me, at least.  I’ll let you create your own truths about your own connections and community.

Never fear, I will return, dear readers, to my contemplation of  The Happiness Manifesto and how it relates to money and my clients.  However, for this moment, I wanted to pass to you some small amount of the same surcease and peace that I found surrounded by nature, my chosen family and the gift of time.

So, here it is …

… imagine pockets of time that stand still as you draw tiny lines and swirls and dots onto a maṇḍala

… imagine hours that fly by as you press legs to earth while sitting in a trusted circle sharing deep connections

… imagine campfire songs and skit antics as you play like the inner child that you repress so often

… imagine waking to body hugs and gentle kisses of joy that land in your hair and on your face like laughter

… imagine unconditional positive regard and authentic beings that believe that everyone comes to the party of earth to be loved and to belong

… imagine a stunning moment where you realize that who you are, what you do, what you believe is ALL PERFECT for it is where you stand at this moment

 

Thanks for reading.  I’ll see you here in a few days to continue The Happiness Manifesto.  May you, also, have some of this peace that I received.

 

Your money guide,

Tam

 

 

 

 

The Happiness Manifesto – Part 2 – Take part

There is something about running and hiking that renews my spirit and reminds me of what is important in my life.   I will actually laugh out loud while pushing myself to the limit in which I am comfortable, and then pushing myself over the edge of the precipice of my normal boundaries.  It is like the act of moving actually imparts some mental or spiritual benefit.    Which may actually be the case, as there are experts that state that physical exercise can decrease depression, reduce anxiety, lower blood pressure and help a whole host of other physical ailments.  Some doctors state that it can be as effective in the treatment of depression as medication.

2.  BE ACTIVE … Go for a walk or run.  Step outside.  Play a game.  Garden.  Dance.

So, let me take this same action and say, “Take part, be a part, of your investment and financial choices.”

There is nothing that you can not know.  There is nothing that is beyond your potential to grasp.  If you can read this blog, you can understand things about your money and your finances.  Sure, you may not want to grasp all the minute details of how a non-publically traded REIT works, may not want to be eminently wise about all the workings of Mezzanine Financing, may not desire to be intimate with all the details of how to choose the right Private Wealth Management company for your portfolio.  However, you should know what these investments are meant to accomplish, you should be clear about the risks that they entail and how it might affect you, and you should be very knowledgeable about the philosophies that your wealth advisor takes when helping you to choose great investments for your future and your wealth.

You do not have to spend 8 hours a day learning and studying the intricacies of the financial markets.  But, you should know what your money guide means when she says, “this is a good choice.”

You should take action, be a part of each decision, so that you are working together with your wealth advisor to make the informed decisions that will lead to a better money life, with more money happiness.  🙂

The Happiness Manifesto – Part 1 – It’s not about the money

As I finish reading the book, The Happiness Manifesto, I reflect on how some simple things – that we often do by instinct – are so essential and universal to happiness.

Why add this to a money blog, you ask?  For me, helping people with investing and wealth is never really about the money.  Sure, I have a strangely analytical mind that revels in the discovery of facts and figures, especially as it relates to investments and planning.  However, as I help people discover their goals and hold themselves accountable to living a RICH life [not to be confused with an affluent life] full of happiness and good choices,  I see every day the power of being fully vested in one’s LIFE, rather than in one’s money.

Along those lines, then, I want to pass on the five universal principles for happiness, and how they may relate to your life with money.

1.  CONNECT … with the people around you, with family, friends and neighbors.

Ellen Berscheid wrote, ” relationships constitute the single most important factor responsible for the survival of Homo sapiens.”

When we connect to our chosen families, those we deem important to our lives, those that we care about, we feed the essential social animal that we are.  This nurtures us, allows us space to breathe and be ourselves and to feel an integral piece of the fabric of the universe.

With my clients, connection is the most important part of our work together.  It is about trust.  With many of my clients, as they tell me about their children, their dreams, the things that they struggle with and the accomplishments that they witness, we begin to create a space of hope, safety and mutual work that will benefit their lives.  It sounds clichéd, perhaps, but they become friends.  I see them in the grocery store, witness major events in their lives and help them to accomplish  goals that they may have been uncertain about reaching.  Most importantly, they know that I have their back.  My life’s work is to guard their money with fierce care and the weapons of choice and knowledge.  Together, we fight the dragons of the unknown.

Never think that the relationship with your advisor is irrelevant and unimportant as you make decisions.  If you do not trust the person guiding you in decisions, perhaps you need a different knight to go into battle with.

They say it is silly …

…to care more about people than money.  To be a wealth advisor and want to change it from a perception of being in “sales” to a perception that we are consultants that you hire to be your advocate in this world of money. They say it is silly that I don’t care how much money I make until after I am certain that my client is best served.  The best people in my industry tell me that I need to have a profit motive.  I am certain that they must be right, but I don’t care.

What I care about is making certain that my family of clients understands money, gets to ask me anything, turns to me to talk about the emotional issues and impacts of money, wants to learn more as they invest with me, and wants to be empowered to change their world, one dollar at a time.  What I care about is that I lead with care in this wilderness of wolves and weeds.  So many things can get in your way; it should not be the person you chose to help you know about money.

If you are not being taught about money, ask why.  Don’t let them convince you that they will handle it all … you should know what they are doing, even if you are trusting them to lead you well.  My clients are intelligent, strong, caring and invested in the knowledge that we are partners in this money thing.  Because, truly, I’ll tell you a secret … it really isn’t about the money.  It is about relationships, trust, and the ability to lie down your head at night and know someone else out there has your back.

Let me make this abundantly clear:  your money is always your money, and you have every right to disagree or make decisions about it, regardless of what I advise.  Don’t let anyone tell you differently.

They say it is silly, but I want to change the world – one client at a time.